Confession time. I must admit that I am a bit dissapointed by the reaction (or non reaction and support) of my friends about my new biz and blog. Almost no likes, no shares (only by my mother, thank you Mom!), no comments (well one, thank you!)… I know I am just starting and things aren’t very exciting here….yet! I need to post stuff that people find interesting to read and comment on. I shouldn’t just expect people to notice because they know me. I am still finding my voice and place as a healer, reader, coach and blogger. This is all new to me! So this is a reality check for me to be patient and take my time (AND make time!!) and have trust in myself and the Universe that all is perfect as it is. But I do have a creeping sensation of dissapointment. I just can’t shake it. I think sharing is caring and just some sign of interest (from friends) would be nice. But that isn’t fair, I shouldn’t expect anything from anyone. If I want a response from friends and other people I need to grow and give it time. Have faith and come up with good stuff that people notice.
So all is good, no worries. 🙂 It was just an emotion I notice and I am totally grateful now.
I am just very vulnerable on this blog and website. It feels like a coming out. Like “hello, I communicate with Angels and Fairies”! I know some people frown upon this and think I have lost my marbles. Well I have always talked to Angels, I just never dared tell anyone (except for a few people). I am still finding my tribe, where I can be me without feeling “strange”. I also hope this blog and biz helps me become who I truely am. Also I have shared about things that happened in my life and will share a lot more in the future. I guess I am just feeling insecure.
I know I don’t need validation or support from others. I need to be okay with me and support myself. Have patience with myself. And be grateful for where I am at now, right at this moment.
So this got me to think. What is dissapointment and how can this teach us something?
Disappointment is the feeling of dissatisfaction that follows the failure of expectations or hopes to manifest. Similar to regret, it differs in that a person feeling regret focuses primarily on the personal choices that contributed to a poor outcome, while a person feeling disappointment focuses on the outcome itself. It is a source of psychological stress.[not in citation given] The study of disappointment—its causes, impact, and the degree to which individual decisions are motivated by a desire to avoid it—is a focus in the field of decision analysis, as disappointment is one of two primary emotions involved in decision-making.
Dealing with disappointment is a fact of life
Whether it’s that you didn’t get the job promotion you wanted or that someone didn’t come through for you. Every single one of us faces challenges at various times. How you deal with these disappointments is what will determine whether you’re a confident person in control of your life or simply a victim.
So, the next time you face a disappointment, pay attention to how you react.
- Do you get mad?
- Do you blame yourself or put yourself down, thinking
- “I’m not good enough”?
- Do you blame other people?
- Do you instantly think it’s because you’re unlucky or nothing ever works for you?
These kinds of reactions will only make the situation worse for yourself. You’re stuck feeling sorry for yourself and you have no way to move forwards.
Instead, take a step back from the original issue and remind yourself, “What do I really want?” Once you know this, then you can ask, “What’s the solution to this?”
Take back your power!
Disappointments aren’t meant to hurt you or keep you down. Dealing with disappointment is meant to help you grow and to remind you of your priorities. Sometimes it can even stop you from going down the wrong path because you take the time to remind yourself of where your priorities really lie.
The real key is to pay attention to your reaction to the event. What are you concentrating on; the disappointment or figuring out a solution to the problem? By doing this you’ll see a huge difference in your confidence levels. You’ll also have an increased sense of satisfaction with your life. And, the real beauty of this is it’s entirely your choice as to what you choose to focus on.
So thank you for shifting my focus and helping me take another step in my self-confidence and helping met GROW.